Hands up those who still have pieces tucked away at the back of the wardrobe - the dress from a different decade, the jeans we once loved, the jacket that makes us feel instantly ourselves. I know I do!
Maybe we keep them out of nostalgia, or in hope of a glorious comeback, or simply because they remind us of who we once were. But I’ve come to realise it doesn’t really matter why we hold on to them. What matters is that clothes hold stories, and those stories evolve as we do.
I’ve never liked the phrase “age-appropriate”. Two words that hold absolutely no relevance for women today. And yet somehow, the idea still lingers - whispered through headlines, social media comments, even from other women. The notion that once we hit a certain age, we should fade quietly into beige feels so tired, so far from the truth of who we are.
Because here’s the reality: women in midlife are vibrant, curious, and beautifully complex.
We’ve lived, loved, worked, lost, and learned. We’ve earned the right to wear whatever we like. If that’s sequins at brunch, so be it. If it’s jeans and a T-shirt that’s seen better days, equally perfect. Style isn’t about youth, it’s about self-expression - and that doesn’t expire with age.
Part of the challenge is that the fashion industry still tends to showcase clothes on twenty-something bodies, as if women vanish beyond thirty-nine. Of course, we know that’s nonsense, but it can plant a seed of doubt, that quiet voice that asks whether something is still “suitable.”
The truth is, suitability is personal. The only question that matters is how it makes you feel.
Maybe our style does shift over time. Bodies change, tastes evolve, priorities move. But that’s not about limitation; it’s evolution. We know now what works for us, what feels comfortable, confident, and true. And that in itself is power.
The late Iris Apfel understood this better than anyone. Bold, flamboyant, unapologetically herself, she once said, “When you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else.” There’s something deeply liberating in that.
So perhaps it’s time to stop dressing for approval and start dressing for joy. To choose pieces that make us feel alive, not appropriate. Because confidence, not conformity, is what makes a woman truly magnetic.
Personally, I refuse to let my wardrobe, or my sense of self, be defined by age. I’ll wear what I love, as I am, for as long as I choose. And if someone doesn’t like it, that’s their taste, but it’s not my truth.
It’s quite simple, really - if you like it, wear it! If it makes you feel like you, that’s reason enough.
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